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I have a question for you guys. You can be my jury and help me decide something.
Here's the situation:
It's late at night. My boyfriend and I are winding down our night and are gonna sit down with a movie and go to bed. He gets a midnight snack. I go down the hall to brush my teeth.
He calls out, "Hey, come here! Look!"
I go to the kitchen and look. He's got a small plastic bottle of lime juice, and he's tossing it at the inside of the fridge door trying to make it land in a shelf. Harmless activity, but I'm not really interested in watching and I want to brush my teeth.
I tell him I don't feel like watching, and I turn around to leave the kitchen. He lightly throws the bottle of lime juice at me and it hits me in the back. Being hit with the bottle didn't hurt, but I still didn't appreciate it.
I turn around, laugh a little, then kick the lime juice bottle down the hall stairs. My reasoning being, 'Hey, if he's gonna throw stuff at me, he can go down the stairs to go get it.'
I tell him to go get it, and he refuses to. I brush my teeth. After, I ask if he got it. He didn't get it. Being the bigger person, I did. I put it in the fridge.
I ask why didn't he get it.
He says it's because what I did was mean, and what he did was funny. He said I kicked it with mean intentions, and he threw it at me with funny intentions. Since I'm the mean one, I should go get it.
But I tell him that I didn't find the throwing terribly funny. Kicking it down the stairs for him to get, however, would be funny to me. And why not pay an act of annoying humor with an equal act of annoying humor?
He says I'm still being mean. I counter that I was an unwilling participant of his humor, and he gets to choose whether or not to partake in my humor (he'd have to make the choice to descend the stairs and pick the bottle up). The least he could do is go get the bottle since the humor was weighted in his favor because of his free choice.
He says he didn't do it to be mean, but that my intentions were mean. Mine were not. I did it to be annoying and funny, which are the same reasons for why he threw the bottle. Our perspectives for humor might be different, but the intentions are the same to me -- being annoying and funny.
Then he says I started it all in the first place by not watching him throw it at the fridge door. I ask why I didn't have the right to my own choice of doing as I please. I also ask why I can't have the right to walk around the house unharmed; I flat out don't like stuff thrown at me randomly -- who does?
He says then that I can throw stuff at him randomly when his back is turned. Then he gets the bottle and asks me to throw it as his back to see how painful it is to be hit with it. I don't want to. The pain isn't the point to me, it's that he threw it at me in the first place...and that me kicking it down the stairs is so much worse to him.
What do you guys think? I know -- it's a trivial disagreement. But don't think we're mad at each other, we know it's trivial and neither of us really care what happens at this point. I'm just curious to see what you guys comment. Who's in the right here? I say I'm right because I'm me, but I'm subjective. You guys are more objective. What say ye? If someone were to win this disagreement, would it be me? Or him?
Here's the situation:
It's late at night. My boyfriend and I are winding down our night and are gonna sit down with a movie and go to bed. He gets a midnight snack. I go down the hall to brush my teeth.
He calls out, "Hey, come here! Look!"
I go to the kitchen and look. He's got a small plastic bottle of lime juice, and he's tossing it at the inside of the fridge door trying to make it land in a shelf. Harmless activity, but I'm not really interested in watching and I want to brush my teeth.
I tell him I don't feel like watching, and I turn around to leave the kitchen. He lightly throws the bottle of lime juice at me and it hits me in the back. Being hit with the bottle didn't hurt, but I still didn't appreciate it.
I turn around, laugh a little, then kick the lime juice bottle down the hall stairs. My reasoning being, 'Hey, if he's gonna throw stuff at me, he can go down the stairs to go get it.'
I tell him to go get it, and he refuses to. I brush my teeth. After, I ask if he got it. He didn't get it. Being the bigger person, I did. I put it in the fridge.
I ask why didn't he get it.
He says it's because what I did was mean, and what he did was funny. He said I kicked it with mean intentions, and he threw it at me with funny intentions. Since I'm the mean one, I should go get it.
But I tell him that I didn't find the throwing terribly funny. Kicking it down the stairs for him to get, however, would be funny to me. And why not pay an act of annoying humor with an equal act of annoying humor?
He says I'm still being mean. I counter that I was an unwilling participant of his humor, and he gets to choose whether or not to partake in my humor (he'd have to make the choice to descend the stairs and pick the bottle up). The least he could do is go get the bottle since the humor was weighted in his favor because of his free choice.
He says he didn't do it to be mean, but that my intentions were mean. Mine were not. I did it to be annoying and funny, which are the same reasons for why he threw the bottle. Our perspectives for humor might be different, but the intentions are the same to me -- being annoying and funny.
Then he says I started it all in the first place by not watching him throw it at the fridge door. I ask why I didn't have the right to my own choice of doing as I please. I also ask why I can't have the right to walk around the house unharmed; I flat out don't like stuff thrown at me randomly -- who does?
He says then that I can throw stuff at him randomly when his back is turned. Then he gets the bottle and asks me to throw it as his back to see how painful it is to be hit with it. I don't want to. The pain isn't the point to me, it's that he threw it at me in the first place...and that me kicking it down the stairs is so much worse to him.
What do you guys think? I know -- it's a trivial disagreement. But don't think we're mad at each other, we know it's trivial and neither of us really care what happens at this point. I'm just curious to see what you guys comment. Who's in the right here? I say I'm right because I'm me, but I'm subjective. You guys are more objective. What say ye? If someone were to win this disagreement, would it be me? Or him?
